Neurodivergent parenting
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Why does the day feel like it lasts for hours but night only feels like an hour?
After one of our worst nights in a long time, my son asked me a question that stopped me in my tracks. This post reflects on sleep, safety, neurodivergence, and how two people can live the same hours but experience them entirely differently. Continue reading
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Can you massage my legs?
A personal reflection on sensory seeking, involuntary movement, and deep pressure — and what it’s like parenting a child whose body needs to move to regulate. Continue reading
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The Boy Who Changed Everything
At the end of the year, reflection comes naturally. This isn’t a post about the challenges — though they matter. It’s about how one little boy can come into your life and quietly change everything you thought you knew about the world, and how that change, despite everything, is pretty special. Continue reading
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Elf on the Shelf: Adjusting for Unique Family Needs
Elf on the Shelf was never meant to be this complicated. But when your child experiences the world differently, even festive traditions need careful thought, constant tweaks, and a lot of emotional labour. This is how Elf on the Shelf really looks in our house — and why it’s never been about the elf at… Continue reading
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Just Relax
‘Just Relax’ is our family motto — said often, rarely achieved. A story about good intentions, Christmas plans, a dying guinea pig, and learning that sometimes relaxing just isn’t possible… and that’s ok Continue reading
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Can you watch me do this?
My son is intense. Once he wants your attention, he pulls you in and you’re not leaving until he decides. And 99% of the time, the person he needs is me. The person whose attention he wants is me. The moment he locks onto me, I’m already quietly planning my escape route because I know Continue reading
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How do you say No?
Managing co-parenting, boundaries, and PDA — one ‘no’ at a time. No. Two letters.Easy to write.Easy to say.Yet one of the most powerful words in any language. And right now, it’s the word I’m struggling with the most. I’ve never been an assertive person. I’m a people pleaser. If someone asks me to do something, Continue reading
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Activate or Accommodate? The Shitty Choice of Parenting a PDA child
I haven’t written properly in a couple of weeks, which is the longest I’ve gone since starting this blog. The last few posts I published were written out in draft a while back — I hadn’t actually started any new writing in a while until last night. And this is probably a depressing read so Continue reading
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Can we do a jigsaw?
Disclaimer: This blog post was started in May, and only just published now in July so the content around school relates to where we were at in May. It was getting on for 7pm and it had been a busy day. I had been at work, but I’d also done the four school runs that Continue reading
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Am I Autistic?
From all the parents I follow on social media there seems to be a lightbulb moment that they have, where they realise their child might be autistic, and then they start realising how similar their child is to them and of course they realise they might be autistic too. Now a year ago I knew Continue reading
The Questions of My Child 