sensory regulation
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What’s your mileage?
The mileage on my car became more than just a number. This is a quiet reflection on my son’s love of numbers, and how something so simple can bring comfort, connection, and joy. Continue reading
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What’s on your mind?
When my son asked me, “What’s on your mind, Mam?”, I said apples. But the truth was, my mind was full — of pressure, balance, and the quiet fear of adding just a little bit too much. This post is about what changed when football stopped, what surfaced in its place, and how close coping… Continue reading
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Can you massage my legs?
A personal reflection on sensory seeking, involuntary movement, and deep pressure — and what it’s like parenting a child whose body needs to move to regulate. Continue reading
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Can I have pasta?
We were heading for the trenches. I couldn’t tell you what week of school we were on, but we had survived so far. And by “survived,” I mean my son had been attending. Does that count as doing well? According to the government, yes. But were we doing well? I was hanging on by a… Continue reading
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Can I have my friends round? Part 2!
Almost 18 months ago we had one of my son’s friends round for tea. It was a very traumatic experience. If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you probably lived through that experience with me (see: Why cant I have my friends round?). I vowed then never to have another friend round but like… Continue reading
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Does Tea Keep You Alive? A Birthday Reflection
I used to love birthdays but life has shifted in ways I never imagined, and special occasions often bring more emotional weight now than joy. They remind me of the gap between how things are and how I once thought they’d be. They bring reflection, comparison, sometimes grief — not because life is bad, but… Continue reading
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Did you have a nice Christmas and New Year?
We all know the score don’t we. For a couple of weeks after the big day and New Year when you see new people, people you haven’t seen since last year they say… “Did you have a good Christmas and New Year?” And I always wonder are they really interested, like really interested or do… Continue reading
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How long have you managed to hide in the toilet for?
I am absolutely sure at some point as parents you have hidden in the toilet to get some peace and quiet. But how long does this normally last. Not long for me usually. Ten minutes max I can probably make it last before children are banging on the door. But still hiding out on the… Continue reading
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How Can I Support My Child Across Two Homes?
Throughout this blog, I’ve avoided touching on a particular subject….probably because I didn’t want it to cloud anyone’s judgment about my thoughts on my son. But now feels like the right time to discuss it, for two key reasons. First, because it’s a serious concern in my eyes, and second, because I honestly don’t know… Continue reading
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Who won the World Cup in 2018?
No blog about my son would be complete without a blog post about football. This is actually the second post I write about his love for football, the first being Who plays for Millwall that used to play for Middlesbrough? All boys love football don’t they, supposedly, that is certainly the stereotype anyway and so… Continue reading