Neurodivergent parenting
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Elf on the Shelf: Adjusting for Unique Family Needs
Elf on the Shelf was never meant to be this complicated. But when your child experiences the world differently, even festive traditions need careful thought, constant tweaks, and a lot of emotional labour. This is how Elf on the Shelf really looks in our house — and why it’s never been about the elf at… Continue reading
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Just Relax
‘Just Relax’ is our family motto — said often, rarely achieved. A story about good intentions, Christmas plans, a dying guinea pig, and learning that sometimes relaxing just isn’t possible… and that’s ok Continue reading
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Can you watch me do this?
My son is intense. Once he wants your attention, he pulls you in and you’re not leaving until he decides. And 99% of the time, the person he needs is me. The person whose attention he wants is me. The moment he locks onto me, I’m already quietly planning my escape route because I know Continue reading
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How do you say No?
Managing co-parenting, boundaries, and PDA — one ‘no’ at a time. No. Two letters.Easy to write.Easy to say.Yet one of the most powerful words in any language. And right now, it’s the word I’m struggling with the most. I’ve never been an assertive person. I’m a people pleaser. If someone asks me to do something, Continue reading
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Activate or Accommodate? The Shitty Choice of Parenting a PDA child
I haven’t written properly in a couple of weeks, which is the longest I’ve gone since starting this blog. The last few posts I published were written out in draft a while back — I hadn’t actually started any new writing in a while until last night. And this is probably a depressing read so Continue reading
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Can we do a jigsaw?
Disclaimer: This blog post was started in May, and only just published now in July so the content around school relates to where we were at in May. It was getting on for 7pm and it had been a busy day. I had been at work, but I’d also done the four school runs that Continue reading
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Am I Autistic?
From all the parents I follow on social media there seems to be a lightbulb moment that they have, where they realise their child might be autistic, and then they start realising how similar their child is to them and of course they realise they might be autistic too. Now a year ago I knew Continue reading
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Is there a King bee?
This is a subject I never thought I would have to write about, but it’s become a big part of our lives, in fact it has taken over our lives. We moved into our forever home 19 months ago — a charming, slightly quirky cottage full of character. It suits us perfectly. The two girls Continue reading
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Why?
This is a question I have asked myself over and over again. Throughout this journey, I’ve dealt with a selection of professionals, and I’ve been completely shocked by the incompetence — and in some cases, the outright lies — I’ve encountered. This isn’t me being unfair. I truly believe I’m a fair, level-headed person. I Continue reading
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Does Tea Keep You Alive? A Birthday Reflection
I used to love birthdays but life has shifted in ways I never imagined, and special occasions often bring more emotional weight now than joy. They remind me of the gap between how things are and how I once thought they’d be. They bring reflection, comparison, sometimes grief — not because life is bad, but Continue reading
The Questions of My Child 