Personal Reflections
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Who Even Am I?
I changed everything to help my PDA son thrive — but somewhere in that process, I disappeared. This is the rawest thing I’ve written yet. Continue reading
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How do you say No?
Managing co-parenting, boundaries, and PDA — one ‘no’ at a time. No. Two letters.Easy to write.Easy to say.Yet one of the most powerful words in any language. And right now, it’s the word I’m struggling with the most. I’ve never been an assertive person. I’m a people pleaser. If someone asks me to do something, Continue reading
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Why Is Everything So Expensive?
A simple question from my son — “Why is everything so expensive?” — opened a window into the hidden costs of parenting a neurodivergent child. From clothes that never get worn to food that’s suddenly rejected, this is the reality behind the price tags. Continue reading
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Has there ever been a tornado in England?
Weather has always held a fascination for my son. Back when we used to read together before bed, he was never drawn to stories about castles or pirates—he wanted books about storms. Tornadoes, hurricanes, tsunamis. The wilder, the better. He would look over the pictures of swirling skies and crashing waves, wide-eyed, as if trying Continue reading
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How has your back to school gone?
It’s the question I’ve been asked more than anything else over the past few weeks. Understandable, given everything we went through last school year. For two weeks straight, it’s all I’ve heard: “How has your back to school gone?” And honestly—it’s a hard one to answer. If things were going well, I almost didn’t dare Continue reading
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Activate or Accommodate? The Shitty Choice of Parenting a PDA child
I haven’t written properly in a couple of weeks, which is the longest I’ve gone since starting this blog. The last few posts I published were written out in draft a while back — I hadn’t actually started any new writing in a while until last night. And this is probably a depressing read so Continue reading
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Who is your favourite pilot?
My son is like a sponge. He soaks up information even when you think he isn’t listening, isn’t interested, or is lost in his own world. He stores it all away and then—just when you least expect it—out it comes. Delivered with conviction, usually at a very random time, and often leaving me either in Continue reading
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Does Tea Keep You Alive? A Birthday Reflection
I used to love birthdays but life has shifted in ways I never imagined, and special occasions often bring more emotional weight now than joy. They remind me of the gap between how things are and how I once thought they’d be. They bring reflection, comparison, sometimes grief — not because life is bad, but Continue reading
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Is God real?
Over the last couple of weeks the questions have been back. We have had some great questions and it didn’t surprise me when my son asked me the biggest question he had ever asked me, a question which is one of the most frequently asked philosophical and religious questions in history. It is googled more Continue reading
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Is being a parent hard?
We were in our living room and I was on the countdown to bedtime. It had been a good day, although my son had been a bundle of energy all day, flitting from one thing to another and I was tired…..it was a good tired. These days are long but I would take them over Continue reading
The Questions of My Child 